Through almost 20 years of working with clients, my passion for the therapeutic process has not waned. It is an honor when I am able to witness the transformation that can happen when self-discovery leads to making the changes necessary to live from a more connected and vital place. Usually, it's not all hard work either. I don't know if I would love doing this so much if there also wasn't an element of humor and lightness.
I consider my approach active and engaged while also using mindful presence to allow space for silence. I believe that in order for therapy to be effective I need to convey to you that I am a skilled professional, guiding you through the process, while cultivating the attitude of wonder and 'not knowing' as we collaboratively discover more about the truth of who you are. I believe that as a client you need to feel safe and supported to maintain the willingness and courage it takes to 'go there'. Go where? To the deeper part of you underneath the symptoms and presenting issues. Once there, you can have more full and consistent access to your innate wisdom, the source of information you need to make the necessary changes to achieve your goals.
My approach is integral, meaning the synthesis of many different theories as they can best serve each unique person I work with. I see integration as involving all aspects of a person (mind, body, emotions and spirit). For example, when I suggest that you examine your thoughts as they pertain to your situation we may use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques. If you have difficulty sitting with stronger emotions I may teach you some Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) skills, including mindfulness. If you are unclear as to what you are feeling, I may draw from Gestalt and ask you to go inward and locate the sensation in your body. I always invite the Transpersonal (your spiritual life in whatever form that takes) as a source of information, support and strength. At times, talking may not be the best way to discover what is happening in the moment, and I might suggest using expressive arts (drawing, writing) as a vehicle to access that information. The most basic therapeutic approach is often the most profound: listening, reflecting what has been said, and witnessing.
In my work with couples my goal is to facilitate productive communication, giving each member of the couple the opportunity to be heard and understood by the other. Once each member of the couple can move beyond habitual assumptions and reactions, a more honest and current dynamic develops, increasing trust and connection.